This was by far the best seduction conference I’ve spoken at, with the cream of the industry’s legit coaches. Big shout-outs to Sasha, Bravo, Detail, Gareth Jones, Badboy, Ryan, Soporno and Manwhore (sorry for shredding your city bro, just not my cup of silicone tea I guess!).

I encourage all my readers to keep an eye on Sasha’s site www.directdatingsummit.com in the future to get on board this amazing event when it comes your way. The next one is in my home city of Melbourne on 5th/6th May, so all my Aussie homies, grab it while you can!

So, Vegas is supposed to be America’s city of sin, full of easy girls and cheap thrills, right??
Hmm, we stayed there a week and found it to be one of the very worst pickup cities we’ve ever been to (and the crew of deadly ladies men assembled have gamed and coached in hundreds of cities worldwide!).

It’s all hype gents.. The locals want nothing to do with tourists and the tourists are so flakey and trashy that unless you pull on the same night, you’ll never hear from them again. I’m not saying none of us got laid, I’m just saying there were no day 2′s and even the masters of phone and text were struggling to get girls to reply.

It became a running joke that when each of us pulled a solid number, we’d consider deleting it straight away. Sasha starting sending “Flake test, 1. 2. 3″ as his opening text

Having said all that, it’s a fun, surreal city to run amok in for a few days, but in my opinion an awful choice for a pickup weekend away.

Here’s a deliciously solid interaction we snapped outside a casino one night..

Breakdown

Camera misses the opening but from memory I just walked up and asked the girls why they were leaving.
The alpha female in green, Jenny, tries to blow me off immediately by saying twice that we should leave and go to the club they’ve just left. I call out the hint and then keep rolling.

Notice that I stay rooted to the same spot throughout almost the entire interaction, ignoring the clammer of the rest of the group and other guys coming in and out (Ryan, I wasn’t ignoring you because I don’t love you, just had a job to do!). As I lock her in with my intent, she walks over into my space and from there she’s all mine.

This is the way I deal with groups; fuck engaging everyone, ignoring the target or whatever convoluted strategy other wack gurus suggest. Essentially I create a private space between me and the lady and only engage others as they walk into my space. You notice that very soon, the rest of the girls scatter, essentially doing the isolation for me.

In terms of the conversation, I use a lot of spontaneous redirection. Instead of following topics along predictable literal pathways, I pick words out of the flow and shift to more flirty/interesting threads. For example, she asks me to guess her ethnicity and says, “What do you think I am?” Instead of answering the literal question, I reinterpret the question to be about her character and answer “Assertive”.

Note at 1.55 she notices the camera. I pick this up and as she’s starting the sentence, “There’s a guy over there..” I don’t look with her. I jump in quickly with heavy intent and grab her attention back. Within a half-second she’s completely forgotten that she was being filmed… That is not the PUA camera man you are looking for -  Jedi style. This is the power of presence in the moment.

Towards the end I can see the group is drifting and know I have to wrap it up before she gets pulled away. I preempt her leaving, which stops a rapid power shift, meaning that I am still the leader and trigger puller.

So, I say, “Let’s meet up again later”.
She says, “Yeah nice meeting you” in a dismissive way, and I nail her on it, showing I only want her number if she’s committed to seeing me again. “Do you want to meet again or not?” I do this often, as it shows that I’m willing to let her walk and don’t accept flakyness.

As I’m getting the number she gets distracted by her friend, and I assertively try to get her attention twice. She doesn’t comply, so I simply wait, knowing she’s obliged to turn back to me to say goodbye. Remember, there’s no point leading in an overbearing way if the girl isn’t enjoying following you. I therefore quickly reassess and chill, so I don’t come across as pushy or needy.

Notice I haven’t touched her much until the end, although she does a lot of incidental touch on me. I prefer to do less touch, build sexual tension through intent and presence, sporadic incidental touch, and then spike physically at the end. So, when she tries to give me a chaste obligatory hug, I pull her in and we get all wrapped up and she jumps up on me. Tender cheek kiss and then I walk off..

Oh, did I meet up with her later, you might ask?

“Flake test, 1. 2. 3…..”

James.
www.thenaturallifestyles.com

But when I saw Johnny speak at the PUA Summit last year, he was one of the few guys there that not only didn’t set off my bullshit radar but genuinely impressed me and opened my world view further. We hung out that afternoon with the maverick crew (Sasha, Gareth Jones, James Social coach) and his wonderful girlfriend Violet. I asked him to explain their relationship dynamic and was curious how he managed to stay un affected by being the partner of an adult film star.Although I have no solipsistic judgement on her career choice and I’m a pretty open minded guy, (have explored all sorts of relationship paradigms over the years) but I must say the idea of sharing the woman I love with absurdly hung chiselled porn stars is pretty confronting.

In his careering style he not only answered my question but went on an epic diatribe that covered: Why marriage is a sham, what a rolex is actually for (I’ve never had a watch and it always baffled me why someone would put the price of a house on their wrist) and what happens if you put your girlfriend in the boot (trunk) of a car..

Although his rant was incredibly eloquent and convincing, what really interested me was the way he and Violet were together. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a couple that after 7 years were still so loving, open, honest and dorkily cute together. Whatever they’re doing, it’s definitely working. So here’s to the wonderful weird diversity of human love, enjoy the vid!

and now.. I’m off to Vegas with Gareth to join the whole motley crew once more to present at Sasha’s Direct Dating Summit. Stay tuned for more tales from the surreal world of the travelling lotharios…

We’re running our final ever Masterclass starting THIS SATURDAY 3rd March in Melbourne. Last count we had 3 spots left, so anyone who’s interested check out www.masterclassrevolution.com and get in contact with me ASAP.

Peace,

James.

Here’s a new clip we just finished from a big day of day game pickup at the Melbourne Cup races.

I’ve always said daytime events with dress ups and alcohol are perfect places to blaze through heaps of generally warm sets. When girls are dressed up, they can flirt and play different roles than they might normally. It also brings out all sorts of types of girls. From this clip, we see aloof models, good time aussie bogans, corportae chicks and more in the one environment.

We dress up; me in a tailored suit and Liam in my old Velveteen 3 piece I had made in Vietnam for 70 bucks. In a place where the average guy is in a cheap hire suit and is stumbling drunkenly by 3pm, having some style and blitzes the competition.

Most of all, we have fun with it. We assume the girls will be friendly and are playful and relaxed. Liam gets away with some cheeky escalation which is hilarious to watch. Enjoy and feel free to meme spread the clip if ya like it!

Peace,

James

It was incredible to watch him change over the trip as he let go of the eager to please behaviours he had all his life and showed is unapologetic desire to women, who opened up with enthusiasm. An absolute pleasure to teach, Carl has some insightful words on his journey and success.

This Year’s Euro Tour, set for late May is already getting heaps of interest and I expect to sell it out soon after I publicly release it. In the mean time, check out all the info at www.theeurotour.com

Anyone interested in finding out more about how to join myself Sasha Daygame, John Cooper and a bunch of awesome guys for the trip of a lifetime, can express their interest on the Euro Tour website.

We’ve got plenty more clips from last year’s trip in the works so stay tuned for some juicy teasers..

The opener is assumptive and direct. I’m assuming she’s fascinating and showing her she’s fascinated me to come over. I also split the opener to allow for her first reaction while I lock in.

Then I ask a broad qualifying question. From there the conversation opens up and we fall into steady cheeky banter. My direct intent is shown through simple flirtation. I mention picking her up, starting a romance and although she verbally denies it, it’s clear she’s enjoying the process. It comes out she’s in a failing marriage but the subtext of a future invitation to pursue things is clear.

Enjoy.

Four years ago I was wandering through Eastern Europe, getting in touch with my Slavic roots and falling in love with the grace, intensity and beauty of the women I met along the way. More specifically I fell in love in Ukraine with the most amazing woman I’ve ever met, who I would eventually marry.

Coming home broke and love sick, desperate to get back I hit apon an idea. By that time I’d been coaching seduction for a couple of years and it occurred to me that I could get back to my lover and also create something ground breaking. At the time no one was doing anything other than weekend workshops. I wondered if it might be possible to run an extended travelling seduction workshop through Eastern Europe.. hmmm, only one way to find out.. Although flung together haphazardly, the first Euro Tour in 2008 was an amazing success. The long term format over 2 weeks and quality of women available made quantum shifts in the guys who came on the trip.

Out of necessity I’d managed to pull off the world’s first long term travelling seduction tour and it worked.. Since then I’ve run the tours every year, refining the logistics and coaching programe to the point where it is incredibly slick, seamlessly run and timed to perfection to hit the best locations at just the right times. We’re starting to see some copy cat residentials in the region recently, which is entirely understandable but they’ll never match the original:)

I’ve just finished up running this year’s tour and I thought I’d give you an insight into how it went. This year I expanded the coaching team to pull in some specialists from other companies. Speaking at the 21 Convention in London earlier this year I made friends with two amazing coaches, Sasha Daygame and Steve Mayeda. In an industry dominated by con men and sociopaths it was refreshing to find guys who walked the talk and were actually decent human beings. So I invited them to guest coach on the tour as well as bringing along TNL’s newest coach John Cooper. We keep the teaching ratio to a strict 2/1, so with our all star team and 8 brave students we hit the road..

First we hit Prague, the gorgeous capital of Czech Republic. Sasha is a pro comedian turned Dating coach, who is renowned as the world’s best direct daygame specialist. Completely fearless and utterly hilarious, it was incredible fun to have him along on the trip. He led the training for the first couple of days, using a series of progressively insane social freedom drills to crack all the start of tour jitters and literally destroy any social fears the guys had.

I won’t give away his secrets but let me say that if you’re able to ask a Czech bombshell where the nearest STD clinic is and then ask for her phone number, then nothing bothers you after that..

Next stop Bratislava. Small and cute, this beat up post soviet city is home to some of the hottest and friendliest women in the world. Here Johnny and I ran workshops with the assistance of a couple of local beauties on conversation, intent, escalation and flirting and the guys started getting consistent results. With no approach hesitation, they were in and out of set all day and night with the breath taking sirens of Bratislava.

On to Budapest, where things really started hotting up. Students started to dissapear in the evenings for wild encounters with the girls they’d met during the day. Masks started coming down and the guys began to see that the Euro Tour is much more than a pickup course, it’s an initiation into your sexual warrior destiny. From bathhouse to bars, cafes to clubs, the crew became an unstoppable brotherhood with the results well outstripping our clients expectations. Steve Mayeda worked with them on deep level change and unlocking male sexuality, and the guys got heaps out of his paradigms. Similar to my style, he’s laid back, softly spoken but has a massive masculine presence.

Our final stop was the Mediterranean seaside town of Split in Croatia.

Glorious weather, great food, breathtaking women, this was the perfect place to finish up. In amongst late night clubbing, swimming in the warm Adriatic, lazy beach approaches and intense rapid escalation training the tour was wrapped up with everyone coaches including wishing it would go on forever.

It’s always hard to do these trips justice in print or even with pics and video. Only those who have been can understand the intensity of experience and personal growth packed into those 12 days. As a coach, I find that every year I am affected as much as the students. Because we are along side them all day every day, going through the approaches, breakthroughs and challenges with them, our game and limits get tested as much as the students. Of course all the guys did dozens if not hundreds of approaches, got tons of numbers, went on dates, made out with heaps of hot girls and got laid but in a way that’s the least important aspect of this program. This is a journey through your fears, ambitions and core masculine identity wrapped up in a crazy sex romp across the eastern bloc. At the end guys were saying things like “For the first time in my life I feel like a man.” Which to me is priceless.

I’m sifting through all the footage we took on tour and I’ll release some choice clips soon, including Johnny running through a Budapest bathhouse in a mankini and approaching a nun, Sasha trying to do James Marshall game on Xanax, students making out with hotties, clips of workshop wisdom and lots more..

Sasha will be joining me again for next year’s trip and I’m already planning the course, which will likely sell out before we advertise it officially as there are already a bunch of guys wanting a place. If you’re interested in being on the advance list, email us at info@thenaturallifestyles.com and we’ll be in touch as soon as I’ve finalized all the details. Check out The Euro Tour site for updates. We can only take a maximum of 8 guys to keep the coaching quality as high as we possible so if you’re serious about getting on the wildest and most profoundly life changing trip that exists anywhere in the world, get in touch asap.

Long live the Euro Tour! Next stop, PUA Summit in L.A..

I first met Sasha when we spoke at the 21 Convention this year. I’d seen his videos and was looking forward to meeting him. We clicked on each others irreverent styles and found common allies along with Steve Mayeda and John Cooper. I grabbed a quick interview with him in London. Check it here..